Wednesday, April 13, 2011

Dear Mom,

Dear Mom,

I love you, but if you could PLEASE stop telling me to give Denali to a rescue that would make me feel a lot better. I'm not getting rid of her. Ever. Finding me rescues and giving me their names doesn't help. You're wrong. She wouldn't be happier somewhere else.

Thanks.

Me

11 comments:

Megan said...

I have a rescue gelding - when I got him I planned to rehome him but then my mare went lame and needed to retire and I needed a riding horse.

Along with that we have a hard time getting him to accept anyone but me riding him, so I figured we were a match.

We're planning to keep all 3 of our horses forever, but I think my mum is of the opinion that Jack (the gelding) is here for a while, but not for good. She told me the other day I could get a few thousand for him just because of his good looks - she's not being pushy, but I've already told her that I'm keeping him and I don't think she understands that it's not a case of MAYBE or WE'LL SEE. It's a case of, I love him and he's not going anywhere.

I'm sure Denali is as happy as she can be with you - you seem to take very good care of her =)

Anonymous said...

my parents like to do stuff like that too, especially my father. sure dad i want to give my show horse to some joe blow you met on the street that has property up north. my 20 year old shark fin warmblood jumper/dressage horse who needs custom saddles would love to carry some fat ass redneck around in a western saddle! drives me effing nuts!!! like you, my horse is my child. i've had him for 12 years so imagine that bond!!! that horse saved my life as a depressed suicidal teenager! when it's time he earned his retirement! he will NEVER be 1,340lbs to the meat man or live in anyone's backyard other then my own!!!
PARENTS, THEY JUST DON'T UNDERSTAND!

Muddy K said...

Dear Denali's Mom's Mom, I don't know you, and I don't really know your daughter either, but I do know that you raised a person who has a huge heart, fierce loyalty, and deep compassion. The world could use so many more people like her. I know I could.

Nicku said...

I can TOTALLY sympathize. I got a long LETTER from my parents telling me it was time to give up riding after I fell off last month. Ugh. It's made me re-think some things, but selling my beautiful horse is not on the table right now. It was a weird note to say the least. I know they are just really concerned for my health but I am not ready to let go of all this...I am making some alterations though...stay tuned!

Drillrider said...

As a Mom----I must defend her as she is trying to help and it breaks her heart to see you suffer with all the trials Denali has put you through.

As a horse Mom----I truly understand you'd rather give up a limb, than give up on Denali.

Jill said...

I'm sure she means well, but wow is that cruel.

Denali's Mom said...

I'm not a mom. It know she means well, but it doesn't help. Thanks guys for the nice words.

Drillrider said...

Someone share this with me and it is EXCELLENT:

From time to time, people tell me, "lighten up, it's just a horse", or, "that's a lot of money for "just a horse". Some of my proudest moments have come about with “just a horse”. Many hours have passed and my only company was "just a horse", but I did not once feel slighted. Some of my saddest moments have been brought about by "just a horse", and in those days of darkness, the gentle touch of "just a horse" gave me comfort and a reason to overcome the day. If you too think it’s "just a horse”, then you will probably understand phrases like "just a friend", "just a sunrise", or "just a promise". "Just a horse" brings into my life the very essence of friendship, trust, and pure unbridled joy. "Just a horse" brings out the compassion and patience that make me a better person. Because of "just a horse" I will rise early, take long walks and look longingly to the future. So for me, and folks like me, it is not "just a horse" but the embodiment of all the hopes and dreams of the future, the fond memories of the past, and the pure joy of the present moment. "Just a horse" brings out what is good in me and diverts my thoughts away from myself and the worries of the day. I hope someday they can understand it is not "just a horse" but the thing that gives me humanity and keeps me from being "just a woman". So the next time you hear the phrase "just a horse", just smile, because they “just” do not understand!

STB Eventer said...

I agree with MuddyK!

Just as a side note...I have a very supportive father but my mother has asked my why I waste so much time with horses. SIGH. I have owned horses for 18 years and ridden for 24. It is not wasting my time....it is my LIFE. I have given up trying to rationalize why she can't understand. Hang in there...we horse people get it!

Rebecca said...

What is it with parents sometimes? The other day we were visiting mine and I commented to my mom that our elderly cat was sore. He has some arthritis in his elbow. Dad and I were talking later and he asked if I'd said Simba had arthritis, and when I confirmed he suggested that maybe it was time for him to "take the long sleep". O_O Uh, no.

achieve1dream said...

So sad when parents don't seem to understand. I hope things work out.